Saturday, July 17, 2010

Things that I have learned from Life so far

“I have learnt silence from the talkative, toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet strange, I am ungrateful to these teachers.” -Kahlil Gibran

I am a teacher and I teach students…or am I? Yes by profession I am a lecturer but I am still a student myself, or we all are student in this university called LIFE. The real learning doesn’t happen inside the four walls of a classroom. What happen inside those four walls are just discussions on some theories created by some dead specimen ages back, what the university calls its syllabus! If you want to make your own theories and perspective, one has to come out of the four walls as the real learning starts in the outside world. You don’t have to do much; all you need to do is live your life and observe things around.

Life is the greatest university and each and every person whom we meet during our lifetime becomes our teacher, as there is something to learn from everyone.

I have learned that your strength doesn’t lie into the materialistic power but the manpower you are surrounded with. It is not the property made of money; it is the riches made of people whom you can rely upon makes you powerful. And I have also realized that very few in this world realize to this reality.

There are certain things that I have learned from life. From the people who have come into mine. The people who became close to my heart, some not so close but everyone touched my life in a unique way. You meet people…few stay with us forever…few leave us just with their memories but it is their presence in our lives that we cherish forever. No matter how long or short their stay is, it is the experience and the relationship with them that adds up to our experience. Few of the experiences are good, few not so good…but it is these not so good ones that gives us the real experience of life and makes us the person that we are from within.

I have learned that to Forgive and Forget are two key things in life…yes it takes practice but sometimes they just come on their own...

I have learned that there are certain things in life that no matter how much hard you try you just cannot do. Love and Hatred are two such things. I have learned that sometimes no matter how much you love someone you cannot make that someone love you back…it is up to that someone to decide whether to return that love to you or not…all that you can do is love that someone and no one can stop you from doing so, not even that ‘someone’...the joy of giving at times is more satisfying than receiving…

Likewise it is easy to Hate but difficult to Forgive…but I have learned that sometimes it is very difficult to Hate and easy to Forgive…to say that technically, the degree of ‘Hurt’ is directly proportional to the ‘closeness of a relation’ but the amount of ‘Hatred’ is inversely proportional to the closeness of it….I have learned that when you truly love someone or the closer the relationship is the more hurt it causes to you but then when you love someone so much it becomes very difficult to hate that person even if s/he has caused you the biggest hurt ever…you just cannot hate them. Even if you try hard, you just can’t.

Now I realize why elderly people long to go back to their children even after being abandoned by them…it is their unconditional love that breaks the barriers of conditions put across to them by their own blood relatives, which still makes them love their kids in spite of no love left in their hearts for their parents. True love comes without any conditions…it just come from within…whether the other heart reciprocates the same or not…it just can’t see, as they say ‘Love is blind’…

I have learned whenever you say goodbye make that Bye a Good one…you never know whether you are going to meet that person ever again in this lifetime… I have learned that no matter how good you are towards them, some people just cannot be good to you...all you need to decide is continue being good or just become indifferent.

I have realized that when you laugh, the world laughs with you and you cry, the world laughs louder…no matter how much in grief you are the world won’t stop and cry with you…
I have realized that life is all about making mistakes and learning from them…I have learned that the most difficult thing in life is to say the three magic words, “I am sorry” that compensates for all your mistakes, but very few have the guts to say them…

I have learned that the only person you should keep an expectation with is ‘Yourself’. ( “If they answer not to thy call walk alone, If they are afraid and cower mutely facing the wall, O thou of evil luck, open thy mind and speak out alone”- Rabindranath Tagore)

And yes one thing that I have just realized is that speaking your heart out does help ease you. :)

Friday, July 2, 2010

And The Search Continues….

Today on my way to office, my bus stopped at a signal. I was sitting at the window seat and noticed a guy on bike with a pretty girl sitting at the back. It seemed that they were a couple. The girl was talking something to the guy and the guy was multi-tasking, I mean not just listening to her (or at least pretending to do so) was also gazing at every other girl at the signal. Poor girl I thought. But then it is not something just with her. Every time I am on the roads this is something I get to notice quite often. Today its him ‘maaro a chance’ on someone else’s girlfriend, tomorrow it would be someone else trying his luck at his girlfriend. And the network continues….

Well we all have our share of such kind of jerks in our lives. Or in other words, all men are the same. What was he searching for? I thought. A pretty girl by his side, still he is not happy with that and seeks for more pleasure. Guys have a typical thing in common i.e. to look at others plate all the time, even if they have their own full. What I fail to understand is what results them behave this certain way? I have heard many of my friends who after having ditched by their boyfriends, often say that men are dogs. I don’t really agree with them here. After all dogs are much loyal, aren’t they? Have you ever heard of any dog who ditched his owner?

The big question that I often ask my male friends is what makes then behave this way? Why aren’t you guys happy with one girl at a time? Why more numbers of girlfriends in your list means the more hot property you are? And why is it that when it comes to choosing the their girl, variety becomes the spice of life? The more naive (or at least pretend to be so) that you are, guys like you the more. In every era, the RAVAN goes for a ‘Sati-savitriSITA all the time. Now that’s not fair!!